Quiet confidence is not something that comes naturally to many of us, however, it is a trait that every one of us can embody with a bit of training; regardless if you are an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between. 

Quiet confidence is an attractive quality, it helps you to express yourself, connect with others, and be able to achieve your goals and dreams. In general, confidence is a quality that all around leads us to greater happiness and a better quality of life.  

Secrets to Exuding Quiet Confidence 

#1 Mindset

Mindset is the foundational piece for everything else to build upon when it comes to exuding a quiet confidence. Your mindset dictates the way you think, feel, and choose to approach and respond to the challenges in life. It tells you what’s possible for you and what’s not, it encourages you or discourages you. 

Our thoughts determine how we feel about ourselves and our capabilities. When you think about yourself from a more positive, confident perspective there is an assurance, know-how, a certainty that you can and will adapt to the situation or circumstances you are in. Your inner confidence will exude that. 

People with quiet confidence train their brains. Just as an athlete spends time in training their body; a person with authentic quiet confidence invests in the training their own thoughts. 

This brain training includes acknowledging the doubt that comes in, doubt is normal, the I can’ts, the impossibles, the I’m not good enoughs- that’s all normal. What a confident person has learned to do is replace those negative thoughts with thoughts of positivity and possibility, reminders of what they have done, reminders of what their capabilities and skills are. They choose to override those negative thoughts and replace them with the belief that things are possible. They work on their mindset every single day, throughout the day. When negative thoughts come in they check them, they challenge them, they choose to say I hear you, but I don’t accept you. They choose a positive attitude that believes in possibilities. It’s not to say the negative thoughts totally disappear, but there’s enough positive to outweigh the doubts. 

#2 Self-Care

Self-care has become a buzzword over the last few years for good reason. Self-care is about prioritizing the care of ourselves. It’s a way to show ourselves that we are a priority in our own lives. Self-care means paying attention and taking care of your mental, emotional, and physical well-being needs from a mindful place.

When you spend time caring for yourself by getting enough sleep, eating well, knowing your limits with things like your time and energy; you will feel better about yourself. You will experience less stress and improved overall well-being. The better we feel about ourselves the more quiet confidence we exude. Self-care affects your inner being- which in turn affects the quiet confidence you exude from within.  

#3 Curiosity

Possessing quiet confidence implies that you’re not talking over people. Instead, many authentically quiet confident people choose to express curiosity in others. When you are curious you are in a place of being non-judgmental. You are being an active listener, choosing to listen more than you speak. When you are curious you are not in competition with others or seeking to gain external validation through judgments or comparisons. These subtleties in how we interact with others all show a quiet confidence. Someone who is confident doesn’t need to tell or show anyone how smart or great they are, they feel good about themselves from within. 

#4 Authenticity with Consistency

A person who is able to exude quiet confidence is able to do so because they know who they are, they are authentically and genuinely themselves. They show up as who they truly are consistently- meaning they don’t act one way one time and then differently the next time 

The more you get to know your true authentic self by practicing self-care, rewiring your mindset, honoring, and accepting yourself for who you are and where you’ve been; the more you will build this skill. Acceptance of yourself is the key to showing up as your authentic self.  

#5 Take Action No Matter What

Nothing builds confidence from within more than action. Action fuels your mind to say- I can accomplish, I can do hard things. It breeds expertise as well as a sense of pride and trust in ourselves that we can do hard things. If you have made a commitment to yourself to eat healthier, for instance, take action each and every day to eat healthier, even when it’s hard, even when you don’t want to. When you set the intention to do a task or chore, do it. You are training your brain to “I can” rather than “I can’t.” The more you show up for yourself the more expertise and mastery you experience. The better you are at something, the more your natural confidence will build. The more you take action, the more you will show up with pride and confidence in yourself.  

True confidence is quiet and comes from within. Quiet confidence doesn’t mean there is an absence of self-doubt or self-sabotage- that is all normal. Having quiet confidence means you are choosing to hear the confident, positive voice over the negative, self-doubt voice. The more you invest in being your best self on the inside, the more quiet confidence you will develop from within.